Category Archives: Random Musings

P.S. – A Postscript on Love, “The Bachelor” Jake and Bachelorette Ali

Before anyone posts a nasty gram calling me a “bitter” woman, I want to jump in and say that I’m in full support of love on all positive fronts. True, sincere, passionate love makes the world go ’round and, of course, is more important than any pay day. 

However, with the sad success rate of “The Bachelor” firmly on record, Ali still made the right choice. The chances that she’d 1) end up with Jake and 2) stay with him forever, much less until the show comes to a conclusion, are just too slim.

Since Valentine’s Day is upon us, I am also asserting that I’m optimistic about love – this despite jackasses like Bachelor Jason, Bachelor Bob, Bachelor Brad or even my most recent fling who decided to become a magician and pull a disappearing act. I’m sure when all is said and done, Ali will thank her lucky stars…especially when she rises to the top of her profession (again, I’m being optimistic) and finds a hot San Franciscan who doesn’t have a penchant for obnoxious women named after European cities.

Good luck Ali! Something tells me you’ll be just fine.

Happy New Year! Miss Pink Slip is Refreshing Her Perspective for 2010

Yes, I’m aware that it’s January 25. I’m also aware that I’ve already slacked on one of my biggest New Year’s Resolutions: Blog more.

So here I am. Did you miss me? That’s a rhetorical question, by the way.  🙂

Over the holiday, I began wavering over whether I would continue Miss Pink Slip. I’ve been gainfully employed since March 2009 (by the grace of God!), and I just wasn’t sure how relevant my voice was to the unemployed/ recessionally challenged population.

But recently, after a bottle of Pinot Noir and a conversation with my UPiC (Unemployed Partner in Crime), I realized that we are all still feeling the stings of joblessness, fear and anxiety. Even a year after the hoopla surrounding unemployment seemed to die down a bit. My friend is still looking for full-time employment as are the many women she’s encountering every day. They’re still out there in droves, and they still need our support. So that’s the angle I’m taking with Miss Pink Slip in 2010: Support. I’m not collecting unemployment, but I know how it feels and I’m among many incredible women who are sure to land on their feet this year. And I want to be there when they do!

I Think I’m a Horoscope Whore: What’s In It For Me In 2010?

Every December, my magazine addiction kicks into an even fiercer gear when January issues begin hitting my mailbox. I frantically tear through each glossy mag, searching for that “astrology” or “horoscope” page usually listed under “In Every Issue” in the Table of Contents. 

Why? I’m always dying to know what happens next. Yes, I’m the one who reads the end of a book first. I’ll read recaps of TV shows that I haven’t seen yet just because I have to know what transpired. I love surprises, but it’s like tickling me until I pee in my pants. I just can’t take the suspense and anxiety!

All my favorite magazines have horoscope features: Harper’s Bazaar, Glamour, Town & Country, Elle… you name it. My favorite, however, is Cosmopolitan‘s “Bedside Astrologer”. I think it’s because every year, that risqué rag promises me a hot, passionate love affair to top all others with the kindest, manliest soul ever found on God’s green Earth. Yeah… I’ve been waiting for that to happen since the 1996 edition, Cosmo Friend. A girl can dare to dream, though.

Much like self-help reading, I think all these horoscopes have become too much for one’s brain to handle. Like information overload. Why can’t I settle for, “It’s a brand New Year;  let’s just see what happens”?  That’s a pretty novel concept, don’t you think?

Many of us have experienced monumental challenges this year – from job losses to a crashing economy to overseas wars, environmental disasters, etc. We all want answers to life’s biggest questions. It’s no surprise: All you have to do is look around you to know we could use a giant slice of faith and optimism. 

So here’s hoping you bring some ease to your life in 2010. You certainly don’t need a horoscope to tell you that.

Are you like me? Can you help taking a peek into the future?

–For the record, I believe one’s fate lies primarily with God. So no fun-killing, catty “horoscopes are the Devil” kind of comments.–

Picture: Cosmopolitan.com

Postscript on Three Things Job Hunters Can Learn From Jon Gosselin

Wow–lots of comments and feedback for this one! Thanks for chiming in everyone–love the discussion. 🙂

Some of you have said that Jon’s not the bad guy, it’s Kate. Or vice-versa. The post was not a comment on who the bad guy is in this situation. It’s to warn job seekers of some things they could be doing to sabotage 1) the job they have or 2) the job they want.

Whether or not Jon’s a bad person (and I doubt he is), he’s displaying certain behaviors that cause the public (his audience) to jump to conclusions or create perceptions in their minds that he’s a loser.

Unfortunately, life’s not fair, a picture’s worth a thousand words and you don’t often get a second chance to make a first impression (<cough> pardon the cliches), so be conscious of the reputation you’re putting out there.

That’s all I’m sayin’.

A Belated Thank You to The 405 Club’s Sunday Blog Brunch

Thank you, thank you to the awesome 405 Club, “New York’s Official Unemployment Network”! They kindly invited me to their Sunday Blog Brunch to enjoy some mimosas while waxing poetically about my Miss Pink Slip experience. No, they didn’t get me tipsy. They’s good peoblog brunchple.

The Sunday Blog Brunch is a brief, fun interview with bloggers “documenting the recession and unemployment firsthand”. It’s just one feature on this hilarious, addictive site. If you’re in the NY/NJ/PA area or are looking for work in the vicinity, you need to join The 405 Club pronto.

Thanks again for the mimosas and lurve. 

PS–Do as I say, not as I do. In the job interview world, two days is way too late to send a “thank you” note. In my defense, I’d just returned from a HUGE SEC football game (GEAUX TIGERS!) and was resting. 🙂 My sentiments, however, remain just as true.

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5 Basic Manners and Why They Matter in the Workplace and on the Job Hunt

kanye-swift_0Like millions of others, all this hubbub surrounding inappropriate outbursts by Kanye, Serena and Russell Simmons has gotten me thinking about manners…and the lack of manners present in our current society.

I’m not going to go on and on about my feelings on those celebrity slips (everyone’s got an opinion), but I do want to talk about how important it is for us to mind our manners in the work world. So here are MPS’ top 5 basic manners and why they matter in the office and on the job hunt:

  1. Say “please” and “thank you”. It will be remembered. In an interview, it shows potential bosses you can be trusted with high-level clients and other important folk. In the workplace, it shows respect for co-workers and appreciation for those working with or for you on projects. People will feel good and work harder for you when they know you care.
  2. Learn proper table manners. If you don’t know them, learn them. Now. You might have a breakfast or lunch interview. You might be invited by your boss to lunch or dinner or dining with clients and other colleagues. Believe me, no one wants to see anyone digging into their meal with extraneous gusto, no one wants to see you chew your food, and please pick up the right dinner roll and water glass. I don’t want you grabbing mine. 🙂
  3. Embrace the “golden rule”. Regardless of your faith, you should adhere every day to the “golden rule”: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This relates to #1 and goes for everyone from your boss to the mail clerk. Be kind. Smile. If someone makes a mistake, don’t scream and yell like a psycho. You will make everyone afraid and refuse to work with you. Why does this matter on the job hunt? Because word spreads quickly among your network when you’re known internally as the office devil. It will crucify you in the job market.  On the flip side, if you’re known to be fair, supportive and a champion, it will open all kinds of doors for you. 
  4. Wait your turn and listen. When in a meeting or a job interview, remember to sit back, take pauses and breathe so you can best control yourself. When someone’s talking, wait for them to finish their thought before you chime in. This will do two very important things: 1) keep you from missing something important and 2) keep you from saying something that makes you look like a jackass. This one is so hard for me (I love to talk), but I try!
  5. Be a good sport. Win or lose, be gracious to everyone on the winning and losing teams. If you’ve beaten someone out for a promotion, don’t gloat. If your team’s lost a client, don’t be negative; go back to the table and figure out how you can improve. If you’ve been laid off, take it graciously and exit gracefully. Don’t bad mouth former employers and colleagues. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, “karma’s a bitch”.

Some Web sites I find handy for manners and gracious living:

Is Someone Getting Pink Slipped on “Mad Men”?

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Not sure if you watched Sunday night’s third season premiere of “Mad Men”(the AMC hit nabbed 2.8 million viewers — up 34% from last year’s first episode), but I got the impression that Sterling Cooper’s recent take over and the previews for upcoming episodes are laying the groundwork for someone to get the axe at our favorite Madison Avenue ad agency.

I thought Pete Campbell and Ken Cosgrove were going in for a good old- fashioned firing on Sunday, but surprise! They emerged co-heads of accounts (for you die-hard fans, don’t email me that I’m an idiot. I know Duck promised Pete that role in season two, but Duck didn’t show up in this episode). Still, changes are definitely in motion and drama is sure to ensue.

Do you think someone’s getting laid off/let go/fired/pink slipped on “Mad Men”? Who would you like to see go? Who would you fight for?

“Drop Dead Diva” Is Teaching Me How to Make the Most of What I’ve Got

I’Drop-Dead-Diva-Does-It-Again-afve said before how much I’m loving Lifetime’s new dramedy “Drop Dead Diva”. Every Sunday as the show comes to a close, I find a goofy smile on my face, and it’s definitely due to the charm of Brooke Elliott, her portrayal of Jane Bingum and the show’s warm writing.

For the uninitiated, “Drop Dead Diva” is “the story of a beautiful-but-vapid model wannabe, Deb, who has a fatal car accident and suddenly finds herself in front of Heaven’s gatekeeper, Fred, who declares her a self-centered ‘zero.’ Outraged, Deb attempts to persuade Fred to return her to her shallow existence but is accidentally relegated to the body of the recently deceased Jane Bingum (Brooke Elliott). A brilliant, thoughtful and plus-size attorney with a loyal assistant (Margaret Cho), Jane has always lived in the shadow of her more comely colleagues, whereas Deb has always relied on her external beauty. Now, by a twist of fate and a bolt of divine intervention, Deb must come to terms with inhabiting Jane’s plus-size frame and learn to reconcile her beauty queen ways with her brilliant new mind” (from mylifetime.com).

As the season has progressed, I’ve become so wrapped up in Jane’s/Deb’s attempt to deal with that hand she’s been given. The situation sucks, to be sure, but being privy to the intimate details of Jane’s/Deb’s evolution (and the evolution of those around her, including her spacey BFF Stacy), is fun and inspiring.

If you’re bummed out about your layoff situation, job status, money woes or any other byproduct of this recession, tune into “Drop Dead Diva”. It might just provide the mirth – and motivation – you need right now. For me, it’s a perfect example of how you make the best with what you’ve got.

“Drop Dead Diva” airs at 9 p.m. ET every Sunday on Lifetime.

In Memoriam: MPS’ “Top 10 John Hughes Hotties” of All Time

This has nothing toJakeRyan do with unemployment, job hunting or the recession, but it has everything to do with the formative years for many readers of this blog.

Iconic writer, producer and director John Hughes died of a heart attack yesterday in New York City at the age of 59. Everything I can say about him has already been written, so with that, please indulge me as I salute this filmmaker with my own personal list of
Top 10 John Hughes Hotties”.

I’ll remember John Hughes best for bringing into my life some of the cutest guys I’ll ever know. Thanks, Mr. Hughes!

  1. Jake Ryan – If ever there was a guy I wanted to sit on my dining room table with, eat birthday cake with and give my underwear to, it’s him. God — the Porsche, the cute rolled jeans, Top Siders and sweater vest. I get giddy and girly just thinking about him!
  2. John Bender – He was the kid in my high school who listened to Metallica and Slayer all day long while smoking cigarettes in the parking lot…and these days, I wish I could go back in time and date him! BTW–I love Judd Nelson and his dark hair, eyes and prominent nose. Just love him!
  3. Steff – It’s well documented in this blog how much I love James Spader’s snobby, detestable Steff from “Pretty in Pink”. The linen suit, smirk, feathery blonde locks…I met a guy one night at Automatic Slim’s in NYC, and he was Steff in the flesh. I hit on him so hard it was embarrassing. We did make out, though. Eureka!
  4. Cameron Frye – Everyone loves Ferris. It’s too easy. But, Alan Ruck’s pathetic Cameron stole my heart. He was just pitiful. I felt sorry for him, wanted to hold his hand and take him to prom.
  5. Chet Donnelly – Asshole. But, a hot asshole. Bill Paxton is a mighty good looking man. I might have eaten a greasy pork sandwich served in a dirty ashtray just for him.
  6. Jake Briggs – How precious was Kevin Bacon’s Jake Briggs in “She’s Having a Baby”? Pitifully being forced to have sex on a schedule while having nightmarish visions of his in-laws critiquing his performance? However, it was his attic-dwelling, cigarette smoking writer persona I fell in love with.
  7. Davis McDonald – Do you note a pattern of bad boys here? Davis, played to perfection by Alec Baldwin, was Jake Briggs’ slimy friend and might be the sleaziest pal ever put on the face of the Earth. However, this was Alec Baldwin of the 80s, and no matter how smarmy he was, he was hot!
  8. Jack Butler – Michael Keaton’s “Jack” from “Mr. Mom” makes a surprising appearance on this list. I think it was the way he fought for his woman, the adorable Teri Garr, as she was practically molested by her boss Ron, played by Martin Mull. Or maybe it was how he made a grilled cheese with an iron and battled for his kid’s woobie with a vacuum cleaner. Either way, love him. 
  9. Anthony Michael Hall – I don’t list a character name here, because everything Anthony Michael Hall was in seemed to begin with this red-haired boy as a total goon who became an endearing doll. The way he manuevered the Rolls? So adorable. Writing a brilliant treatise for Dick Vernon in study hall? Smart and insightful.
  10. Long Duk Dong – Really. Was there ever any doubt he would make my list?

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Smile. You’ll Get By

As I was walking my dog today through the tree-lined streets of my friendly Atlanta neighborhood, I began singing the first few lines of “Smile” under my breath.

It just came into my head (no, not because of the Michael Jackson funeral music selection). I love Nat King Cole, but I couldn’t remember all the lyrics. So I looked them up when I got home, read them and immediately felt this warm calm wash over me. Corny, I know. But, the song’s simple, unvarnished words touched me in such a way that I wanted to post them for you to read. I hope they bring you a brief moment of comfort, too.

Smile

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though its breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, whats the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

Words by John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons; music by Charlie Chaplin