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What If Jon and Kate Had Read Suzy Welch’s New Book 10-10-10?

kate-jon-gosselin-gThe “Jon and Kate Plus 8” chaos makes me want to hide under my bed with enough rations for a year. It permeates every news medium and entertainment blog, and the drama just continues to fester like a sore without Neosporin®.

Does success really come with this big a price? It can, and all of this fallout could possibly have been avoided if Jon and Kate Gosselin had simply been connected with Suzy Welch, former Harvard Business Review editor and wife of business icon Jack Welch.

Suzy’s new book, 10-10-10 (Scribner) is genius. When I first read about its premise, it was eye-opening. About as eye-opening for me as the iconic phrase, “he’s just not that into you” (I still thank Ron Livingston/Jack Berger daily for that bit of wisdom). And that’s saying something!

There’s a whole back story, but in essence, when faced with a tough decision, Welch considers the possible consequences within the next 10 minutes, in 10 months, and in 10 years. This process helps put everything in perspective and walks you through an informed, well-plotted decision-making process.  Glamour called 10-10-10 “The Best Decision-Making Tool Ever”.

So, let’s take a look at Jon and Kate Gosselin. If they’d employed 10-10-10, they might have found that:

  • If we take this offer from TLC, what could we get out of it in the next 10 minutes? A fat check that will pay for those truckloads of diapers I just charged on our Visa. Whew! Talk about saving us from bankruptcy!
  • What about 10 months from now? Oh, it could be fun for our family memory book to have all these episodes to look back on. A book deal? Wow–that money can add to the kids’ college funds. They’ll be little. They probably won’t remember anything about the filming.
  • 10 years from now? Will our kids be overexposed and screwed up after years of being on TV and in the public eye? All these cameras around and media obligations might be stressful. Do you think our marriage can handle it? Will we become prisoner to the paycheck?

suzySee what I mean? They could have been using 10-10-10 through the show’s production, too, and realized that maybe they should stop filming it for the sake of twins Cara and Mady, and sextuplets Aaden, Alexis, Collin, Hannah, Joel and Leah.

A simple tutorial by Suzy could have saved these parents and their kids from seeing themselves on every US Weekly and People cover, “Entertainment Tonight” segment and gossip/TV blog posting.

I feel so sorry for those children, and if this whole thing had been thought out with a better eye toward the future, it could have shaken out much differently.

What does this mean for you? As you vet job offers and work opportunities, think about what that offer might mean to you and your family in 10 minutes, 10 months and in 10 years. Depending on your priorities, it can save you a lot of trouble.

I just bought 10-10-10, and am ready to dig in! Let me know if you’ve read it.

Photo: US Weekly