Ever since Michael Jackson died – and oodles of times before that, people have ruminated over the fact that he surrounded himself with shady people who were only out for themselves and Michael’s money (well, maybe Bubbles the Chimp or the odd llama) and could have cared less about the King of Pop’s well-being.
I was thinking about that this morning in the context of unemployment. I’ve said before that one thing we can learn from celebrities is how to assemble a team around you that is there for genuine support and assistance:
“Just like celebs have publicists, agents, managers, stylists, life coaches, etc., you should take their lead and put together your own support team. Call on friends who are great at networking, self-promotion, organization, brainstorming and image. Most importantly, enlist spiritual friends and others you can lean on psychologically and emotionally.”
Take a look around. Who’s there for you? Do you trust them? Do they have your best interests at heart? Are they authentic friends? If you’ve been looking for work or are dealing with other life challenges, you need the smartest, most positive, caring people surrounding you. The others are just wastes of time.
If I could assemble my all-pro “dream team”, who would it be?
- God – Duh.
- Dolly Parton – this star of stage and screen came from nuttin’ and has always remembered her roots. Ironically, she’s the picture of “authenticity” for me, and I can’t imagine anyone more encouraging and supportive. She keeps it real
- Jack and Suzy Welch – say what you will about how they got together, but they’re wildly successful for a reason and seem to be nice people. Plus, can you imagine the business plan they’d put together for you?
- Joel Osteen – OK. You probably just cringed. In fact, I felt it. But, this guy makes me feel good. Yes, I have watched many of his sermons on television, and just as I’m about to turn the channel to avoid the glare of his gleaming white teeth, he says something that comforts me and calms my pulse
- E. Jean Carroll – Again, she’s my hero. No-nonsense, yet classy and sisterly. She gives a sh*t about her fellow woman and always looks fabulous while dishing out the most valued advice found in the pages of a magazine
Who would be on your dream team?
From the MPS archives:
Posted in News, Sanity Without Salary
Tagged celebrities, Dolly Parton, dream team, E. Jean Carroll, Friends, God, Jack and Suzy Welch, Joel Osteen, life coaches, michael jackson, shady people, unemployment
MPS is experiencing a little bit o’ heartbreak today, so I’m digging into my archives to find some advice that could apply to what I’m feeling. Because getting laid off is a heartbreak of its own, isn’t it?
After perusing my posts, I found the following two. I think they’re perfect for the sadness I’m experiencing. None of them includes a tissue or lavender eye-mask…I think. I hope they help you, too. No matter what ails you!
7 Things to Do When You’re Angry
Revisit Your Inner Kid
So, based on the advice, here’s my game plan for the week:
- Run that pissed-off feeling out of my body (well, maybe tomorrow)
- Hug my dog-daughter and play ball with her (Miss SJB, I’m on my way home!)
- Drink some (cheap) wine with my UPiC
- Watch a really cheesy movie or Sunday night’s episode of “Drop Dead Diva“. If you haven’t seen this new show and its star Brooke Elliott, both are precious and uplifting
- Read another chapter of the new “smart girl’s beach book” I bought at the Strand in NYC, Commencement
- Re-read portions of Gigi Levangie Grazer’s awesome new novel, Queen Takes King. Basically, it’s about a woman who kicks ass. Love it. BTW–Gigi is my idol
- Maybe go see “Breakfast at Tiffany’s”for the umpteenth time, but this time at the Fox Theater…with a pre-show wine tasting. Some may consider Holly Golightly a cliche heroine, but her trip to the Five-and-Dime with George Peppard’s “Fred” is enough to lift anyone’s spirits
- Check in with the ladies over at E. Jean Carroll’s Advice Vixens. Those gals will whip me into shape fast. E. Jean: Honey, if ever there was a time I needed you!
- Lie out by the pool this Saturday and recapture that glow I’m missing
- Dive into the pile of magazines I got in the mail over the weekend. Allure, O, Elle, Self, Cosmo—girls, I hope you’ve got something good for me!
Am I missing a step? What do you do to heal a bruised heart?
Posted in Sanity Without Salary, Uncategorized
Tagged 10-step Program, advice vixens, Anger, Breakfast at Tiffany's, broken heart, Brooke Elliott, Commencement, Drop Dead Diva, E. Jean Carroll, feeling blue, Fox Theater, Gigi Levangie Grazer, heartbreak, inner kid, Queen Takes King, recovery, unemployment
You may remember that last week I asked your advice for a friend who’s currently unemployed but eager to date. She has done Match.com and eHarmony, but just doesn’t have the money for monthly fees right now. I asked what you thought about spending money for online dating sites when you don’t have a job. Just wanted to share some feedback I’ve gleaned from some of you terrific readers out there!
- “JDate has a way to have a profile without paying, so I’d assume other sites are the same. Then you just make your username the same as your instant message name and hope they find you!”
- Check out PlentyofFish.com. It’s free. Also, greatboyfriends.com may be free at some point in the near future
- Online dating can give you something to look forward to while you’re job hunting
I had more responses, but those were the best nuggets.
Check out these Advice Vixens
On a related note, I have to tell y’all to check out www.askejean.com (yes, from Elle Magazine’s grande dame of advice, E. Jean Carroll) for access to her Advice Vixens. You just type in your question, and you get tips, suggestions and insight straight from the mouths of women like you! Those ladies are on it, too! I got responses five minutes after submitting my questions.
Sure beats $100 an hour for a shrink!
Related Post: https://misspinkslip.wordpress.com/2009/06/16/dear-mps-should-i-spend-money-online-dating-while-im-unemployed/
Posted in Cheap Thrills, Dear MPS, Sanity Without Salary
Tagged advice, advice vixens, ask e jean, E. Jean Carroll, eHarmony, greatboyfriends.com, JDate, jobless, Match.com, Nerve.com, online dating, online dating sites, plentyoffish.com, unemployed, unemployment
I love E. Jean Carroll. I’ve read her column in Elle for years. She’s like that friend who tells you when your jeans are too tight or that perhaps the guy you’re seeing ain’t up to no good. Honesty, pure and simple with a touch of manners and class. That’s E. Jean.
If you’re having a problem with the job hunt, dating, your mother, friends, bikini waxes, whatever…E. Jean is there. Just plug your question into the form provided on her home page, and she’ll respond! The site pulls keywords from your question and matches them up with similar answers she’s provided for women just like us over the years.
Awesome! And no co-pay or COBRA needed!